One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don’t want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It’s a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.
If the simple act of having boundaries causes you to lose your family and friends then you’ve got shit family and friends who lack any real respect for you.
If “grooming an underage person” becomes the new go-to accusation that gets trotted out any and every time an adult makes any mention of sexual topics in the presence of a person under the age of 18, I wonder if it will eventually become functionally impossible for any adult in a position of authority to act as an educational reference for sexual health matters.
I was going back through my tumblr archives and found this post from five years ago and now I need a drink.
I feel like we’re almost in an era of like, reverse queerbaiting. Used to be that you’d be tricked into watching a show because the story implied there’d be gay rep, but now they’re using gay rep to trick you into thinking there’ll be a story.
Normies talking about getting whiplash from recipe blogs. You know nothing
[ID: An AO3 author’s note reading, “Sorry for vanishing, I did a little too much research on cults an coercive control for Damian’s arc, and then realized I was raised in a cult, and THEN I ran away to a fishing town cabin on the other side of the country and had to start learning to be a person in the real world. I also forgot how to write. But I’m learning again, so I’m back now! Have some more.” The “I” in “I was raised in a cult” is emphasized by sparking emojis, and the note is ended with heart emojis. /end ID]
Aaaand THIS is one of the many reasons why it’s not only not a bad thing to portray dark subject matter, but EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to do so!! You can learn a lot when writing, and others can learn a lot when reading! This can save lives, dudes.
I am so proud of the author though. That took multiple kinds of courage at once. Good job, author.
Hi! I’m the original author from ao3!
I want to thank everyone for such hilarious and kind additions/replies/tags on this post, they’ve been so amazing to read. They’ve meant more to me than you guys know. ❤️
I also want to add some information for anyone who wants to know more about recognizing the signs that you might be in a high control group.
High control groups can be small or large, religious or not, clubs, schools, online servers, friend groups, etc.
No human is invulnerable because we all have brains and emotions that can be played like a fiddle. Knowing the red flags can help us all keep ourselves safer!
Crisis Text Line (highly recommend, especially if you’re not in a safe place to discuss things on the phone)
Please always protect yourself as best you can and never be afraid to reach out for help—even if you’re just wondering, even if you’re not sure about something.
No safe group or person will EVER be mad at you for being cautious and taking things slow, or for changing your mind at ANY point. You’re the one who gets to decide whether you join or stay with a group, no matter what they threaten or love-bomb you with.
If you’re not safe, there’s help.
If you feel trapped, there’s help.
If people are being actively hurt, good people want to listen, understand, and help.
We all deserve freedom. I’m grateful every morning I wake up that I get to live it now, even though it’s hard and I have a long way to go. Thank you for walking this journey with me, for one brief moment or for years, and helping me—and others like me—not be alone.
Take care, stay safe, and happy fanfiction reading!
Liberals in 2023: “If you don’t support genocide unconditionally you’re a fascist.”
…But you guys do know it’ll still get worse if a Republican wins, right
No, Republicans and Democrats support Israel equally.
I mean, other things will get worse. Remember how Trump rounded up a bunch of people and put them in concentration camps? Remember that?
A single Republican presidency in fifteen years destroyed Roe vs Wade, gutted decades of environmental policy, worsened the treatment of immigrants and minorities across the board, worsened education, and currently what they’re most itching to do is turn the whole country’s treatment of all LGBT people back to the 50s, which isn’t even the half of it.
Democrats are evil pieces of shit but Republicans at bare minimum are the same evil plus a thousand extra guns aimed at everyone’s heads. We don’t have a choice but to make sure the right gets defeated at all costs before any additional progress will ever stand a chance.
1. Democrats could have ratified roe v wade into law years ago. They didn’t do it so you would have an excuse to vote for them to “protect roe v Wade”. Roe v Wade was repealed under a democrat president.
2. Biden is allowing offshore drilling in the gulf of Mexico and Alaska.
3. Biden deported more immigrants than any president in history, used an executive order to build the border wall on indigenous land, has more people locked up in the border camps than BEFORE THE FUCKING PANDEMIC, and sent ICE agents on horseback to whip Haitian refugees like a fucking slavemaster.
4. Biden isn’t lifting a single one of his shrivelled up fingers to protect LGBT people.
5. Biden is currently FUNDING AND SUPPORTING A GENOCIDE and didn’t lift a finger to stop the complete ethnic cleansing of Armenians in Artsakh just a few months ago.
You’ve been doing this same old song and dance for the past century. Nothing is gonna get better for the US—much less for the 7+ billion people outside of the US who can’t vote on your elections but are still affected by your government—if your idea of “political action” starts and ends at “supporting one of the two identical right wing parties”.
re: “A single Republican presidency in fifteen years” — no, the conservative movement working tirelessly for decades is what resulted in those things
true, conservatives have billionaires and an intentionally oligarchic political system/state on their side; this helps. but they also have entities like the Federalist Society capturing the judiciary, they meet weekly (or more) at Christian churches to organize dual-power networks and mobilize political activity, and they establish cultural norms to make the enforcement of certain top-down policies impossible
imagine a universe where the Supreme Court ruled that evictions were illegal. Would evictions actually stop?
imagine if Hillary Clinton or hell, Bernie Sanders, had won the presidency in 2016. What would the reaction to Covid precautions have been by conservatives, especially conservatives in states and localities controlled by conservatives?
etc
for the USA, the period people look back on as the most progressive in history is the New Deal coalition of the 1930s and ‘40s. For all of the flaws and exceptions with that, it’s not that FDR was particularly radical. Just the opposite. But the anarchists, communists, socialists, and unions working for decades (in the face of tremendous violence!) created an environment leading up to the Great Depression that when it happened, the US president was either going to be active in addressing social inequality or everyday people were going to rip apart society
vote or don’t vote. it really doesn’t matter because politicians are constrained by circumstances much more than any of them would admit
if you care about your values, you have to be active in creating the sort of world where who is elected does not matter the same way this is true of issues like police budgets presently
“vote or don’t vote. it really doesn’t matter because…”
…and all I hear is the buzzing noises of another useless bullshit radical. I’m unfollowing the person I RB’d this from now. Yes, fight for the world you want in all the ways you can above and beyond voting. It’s essential, of course it fucking is. But
VOTING FUCKING MATTERS YOU FUCKING ASSWIPES.
Look at trump, at what people can do with the power of the executive branch in the USA, and tell me with a straight face voting for the lesser of two evils isn’t an ESSENTIAL life-saving thing we have to do, every time.
Keep doing nazi’s work for them, why not? Blow me, the lot of ya.
The point of the previous post is that the successes of the right as a political movement over the past decades have been in making electoral outcomes irrelevant because of all of the work they do outside of and in-between elections.
If you want to vote, you should. No one is being discouraged here. Frankly, it’s easy enough especially in places like Washington State with mail-in ballots, and it’s not nothing. There’s a reason disenfranchised people have sought the franchise, and it’s not because they were or are foolish.
But your response is part of the issue.
Imagine treating signing petitions as being the “essential” political activity. No serious person would claim that you can stop fascism by signing more petitions against them or become outraged to hear that their friend didn’t bother to sign a petition this year. Yet, that is how voting is often treated.
“Sign petitions or don’t sign petitions” — this is the exact opposite of a radical proposition. “Call your elected representatives or don’t call them.” “Submit statements at city council meetings or don’t submit them.” Etc. You’re welcome to do it, but don’t be surprised when structures of power completely disregard you because those structures do not exist to be responsive to popular opinion; usually, it’s the exact opposite.
“Vote or don’t vote.” It’s not like Alan Moore committed a sin by voting for Labour in 2019 or that his anarchist credentials deserve to be revoked. The point is that voting does not actually mean that much one way or the other (especially when it comes to U.S. president and the way the Electoral College works), and we can’t let ourselves be tricked into thinking so or fall into the trap of devoting our time, attention, and resources into that fallacy.
Democrats “voted harder” than Republicans in 2016 and 2020, just as they did in 2012 and 2008. Yet regardless of the outcome of any particular election and regardless of any particular candidate, the conservative movement maintains itself, minimizes the stakes of losing an election and maximizes winning.
But if you want to vote, then go ahead and vote.
Hell, sign petitions, too.
Just let none of us pretend these things are threats or even impediments to Nazis.
i learned that there’s a Japanese beetle that when eaten by a frog will haul ass through its digestive system and escape out the back end unscathed (x)
you eat me and i perfectly dodge all of your digestive enzymes and stomach acid and i sprint out your asshole fully intact
Editing to add: he’s 14 during The First SOLDIER because it’s early in the year and his birthday is probably in December, so he’ll be 15 in a few months, but isn’t yet!
I love how Zuko’s perception of the gaang must have done a complete 360 after joining them like
Zuko, before joining: this is a group of extremely skilled benders, i must be prepared for any possible situation when i run into them
Zuko, right after joining: wait a minute these aren’t trained warriors they’re bunch of goofy kids that have somehow survived without adult supervision all this time, i shouldn’t have been so worried
Zuko, seeing Katara bloodbend: what the fuck what the fuck what the fuck what the fuck what-
Zombies shouldn’t growl or snarl, they should babble a mixture of incomplete word sounds and whole words or sentence fragments. Every zombie should sound almost but not quite like it’s trying to tell you something.
this may not be what you’re saying, but what I’m hearing is that zombies should make everyone feel like they’ve developed sudden onset audio processing disorder.
Like if you could just hear it more clearly, you’d understand what they’re saying, but in reality it’s nonsense and there’s nothing to understand.
And damn if it doesn’t convince so many folks that their loved ones are still in there, they just need to keep them locked up safely in the barn until someone finds the cure, then everything can go back to the way they were.
THIS is exactly what this particular zombie trope is missing. Like we all understand, conceptually, that this still looks like someone they love, but it would be 1000 times more effective if it still somewhat behaved like someone they love.
oooh muscle memory. i’m not into zombie media enough to tell if this has been done or not but. zombies that will automatically reach into their pocket for their phone when they hear a ring, even if it’s dead, broken or lost. zombies that reach up to play with their hair or necklace, the same way your loved one did. zombies that bite their nails. a zombie rolling up its sleeves with perfect practice while looking at you with the utterly blank eyes of a dead animal
